Shilvock, Darren Charles
Darren Shilvock passed away at his home in Kimberley on Friday, April 17, 2020 at the age of 48.
Born in Meaford on May 18, 1971, Darren was the third child and cherished son of Ray and Dianne (nee Ellis) Shilvock. He grew up in Kimberley, dirt biking and skiing the hills that he loved so much. He spent many hours at the family cottage at Lake Eugenia, honing his water skiing and wakeboarding skills. As he didn’t really like getting wet, he perfected the art of starting on the dock and ending on the beach. Darren and Lori married and started a life together on Gramma Margaret’s farm on the west side of the valley. They were blessed with two beautiful children, Ella and Will. Darren loved being a Dad. He knew how fortunate he was to have them in his life and never stopped being proud of them. He enjoyed taking them to their sporting activities, riding the trails on the family ‘side by side’, family vacations and spending time at the cottage.
We know that he treasured his children and didn’t want to leave them but his disease took away his choices. His disease was just as insidious and deadly as cancer, while being far more difficult to diagnose, treat, and even discuss. While his death leaves us all feeling raw, struggling for understanding, endlessly questioning how and why this could have happened, we must remember that he was a victim of his disease, an emotional cancer. He no doubt is as grieved as we are that his unwanted death has caused so much pain, but no doubt too, he asks for our continued love, affection, and especially for our understanding. His death does not define him. We must remember his beautiful smiling face at his happiest moments.
We hope that he is now at peace, sitting at Gramma Margaret’s kitchen table, having a bowl of his favourite tomato soup and updating her with stories about his beloved children. Darren’s kind and gentle soul will be forever remembered and forever missed. He was truly one of the good guys.
Darren will forever be loved by his daughter Ella and son William, and by his parents Ray and Dianne. He will be forever remembered by Lori. Darren will always be the treasured baby brother to Janice and Tracey, dear brother in law to Mike, and loving uncle to Cadence and Silas. He will be remembered fondly by his many aunts, uncles, cousins and their families.
Cremation has taken place and a private family service of committal and interment will be conducted at Thornbury-Clarksburg Union Cemetery. A celebration of Darren’s life will take place in the near future when family and friends can safely gather. Details for this will be announced as soon as they are available.
As your expression of sympathy, donations in trust for Darren’s children, Ella and William Shilvock, would be appreciated and may be made by cheque only payable to Ella and William Shilvock through the Ferguson Funeral Home, 48 Boucher St. E., Meaford, ON N4L 1B9. www.fergusonfuneralhomes.ca
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Monday, April 20, 2020
A beautiful tribute to Darren who was indeed a kind and loving soul. I will always remember him with fondness and his laid back, always calm demeanor and sense of humour. While my heart breaks for Darren and all of his family and friends I know that he is now at peace and send my love and comfort to his family and friends. Hugs to all at this difficult time.
Monday, April 20, 2020
Ray and Diane and family
Words can’t express how sorry we are to learn of Darren’s sudden passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you as cope with your loss.
Leona (Kirkpatrick) and Don Sieffert
Monday, April 20, 2020
Deepest sympathy to Ray and Dianne on your sudden loss of Darren. To Lori, Ella and Will, words cannot express our sorrow for your loss and send hugs to you all. We Send our heart felt condolences to all his family members and friends. Our thoughts and prayers are with everyone as we all come to understand the sudden loss of Darren.
Monday, April 20, 2020
My condolences to the family.
From Glenna & Joe Clark
Monday, April 20, 2020
Ray, Diane and family, know that we are thinking of you at this time. What a lovely tribute to your son,brother, and father. We will gather again soon to help you grieve. Al and Joan Smith
Monday, April 20, 2020
Thank you for sharing these heartfelt words about Darren. I will continue to remember him as genuine, good-natured and smiling. Sending love to all of his family and the many whose lives he touched. Janet Tolton
Monday, April 20, 2020
Lori, our deepest Condolences from the Mercer’s (Jim/Laura/Patrick and Caitlin). We have only fond memories of Darren’s smile and good nature. Try to stay strong.
Monday, April 20, 2020
We’re so sorry to hear of your loss. We know well the struggle of “emotional cancer” – it is insidious. We will keep you in our thoughts.
Leone and Richard B.
Monday, April 20, 2020
Ray and Diane,
So sorry to hear of the sudden loss of you’re son, Darren. Sending loving thoughts to you all at this difficult time.
Wayne and Ruth Knott
Monday, April 20, 2020
Ray and Dianne: we are so sorry for your loss. We will always remember Darren for his quiet demeanour and quirky smile. Our thoughts are with you and your family.
Monday, April 20, 2020
Ray, Dianne, Janice and Cadence and all of Darrens family. My heart broke when I heard of the tragic loss of Darren. May you find comfort knowing so many people are thinking of you and sending you hugs. Take care of each other. Much love, Jennifer Lougheed
Monday, April 20, 2020
Our hearts are breaking for all of you. Darren was such a great guy, a true kind & gentle soul.
Deepest sympathies to all of you on your terrible loss.
Ron & Shelley Gibbons
Monday, April 20, 2020
Ray and Dianne,,, so much sympathy is sent to you at this time… Stay well and keep the memories close,, they will never go away.. Marge and Dennis Williams
Monday, April 20, 2020
So sorry to hear of a terrible loss to your family.
I will always remember him coming up the driveway to say hello to Grandma and Grandpa with his big smile.
My deepest condolences and love your family
Kailie
Monday, April 20, 2020
So Sorry to hear of your loss. Our Thoughts and Prayers go out to You and Your Family.
Phil Clark and Family.
Monday, April 20, 2020
Lori, Will, Ella and all of Darren’s Family. Our hearts are aching for each and every one of you. Darren was always so quiet when in our presence but always willing to sit and have a chat about family. Darren’s illness as you have stated ate away at him and we can not imagine how hard it was for him to deal with. Rest In Peace Darren and please know we will all be here for your beautiful children.
Paul and Linda Wilson
Monday, April 20, 2020
What a beautiful tribute to Darren. We are so very sorry for your loss. Our thoughts are with you in this difficult time.
Ron and Sonya
Monday, April 20, 2020
A beautifully written tribute for a lovely guy. What a shocking loss – our hearts break for the extended Shilvock family and especially for Ella and Will. We hope that you can all soon find peace and comfort in your many fond memories of Darren.
Monday, April 20, 2020
Ray and Diane
My deepest condolences at this difficult time
Monday, April 20, 2020
Ray and Dianne ..Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time… Thank you for sharing this tribute to Darren . . Take care of yourselves….Faye and David
Monday, April 20, 2020
Hi Norma – You may have already heard about this death, but I thought I should share it with you. You and Dianne are both in a very sad time. Thinking about Dianne & Ray, as well as you, Love & Prayers, Lois
Monday, April 20, 2020
Ray, Dianne and family we are so sorry for the loss of Darren.
He was always so pleasant to speak with. Such a loss to everyone.
We are thinking of you at this very sad time. When this virus is over we hope to
Be able to meet with you with a huge hug.
Paul and Barb McMullen
Monday, April 20, 2020
We are so sorry for your loss. Our deepest sympathies to you all. You are in our thoughts.
Monday, April 20, 2020
Ray & Dianne Thoughts are with you My deepest sympathy
Monday, April 20, 2020
My heart aches for you. My sincere condolences to all the family.
Diane Armstrong
Monday, April 20, 2020
Ray, Dianne and Family,
Words cannot begin to express how sorry we are to learn of Darren’s sudden passing. Our hearts broke when we heard of the tragic loss to your family. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you as you cope with your loss.
Wes and Julia Mundle
Monday, April 20, 2020
Please accept our deepest sympathy for your loss. Our prayers are with you all.
Monday, April 20, 2020
There are no words that can express how truly sorry I am to hear this news. Please know that your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
Monday, April 20, 2020
Ray, Dianne, Janice and Tracy. I am so sorry to hear about Darren’s passing. I remember him as such a cute, happy, little kid. I’m sure you have lots of loving memories that will comfort you through these times and in the future. My heart goes out to you all and to his children.
Monday, April 20, 2020
Please accept my deepest condolences on the death of a beloved son, brother , uncle and Dad.
Monday, April 20, 2020
Dianne and Ray, my heart is breaking for you and your family. What a beautiful tribute in honour of Darren.
I haven’t seen Darren in years but hold fond memories of younger times. I can’t tell you how sorry I was to hear of his passing. Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time.
My mom sends her love as well to you both.
Monday, April 20, 2020
To the Shilvock family. I really have no words that can express the heartbreak I feel for every one of you. I know how deeply you all loved Darren and how deeply he loved you all back. Please know we are all grieving for yours and his tremendous loss. I wish I could send you strength, love, hugs and somehow peace in your hearts. Disease and illness is so difficult to understand, especially when it robs us of our loved ones. I know in the coming times, you will be able to remember all the amazing times. They are to be treasured xoxox
Monday, April 20, 2020
Ray,Diane and Family-There are no words to express how sorry we are to hear this tragic news of Darren’s passing.
Monday, April 20, 2020
That was the most eloquently written tribute. Sympathy to his family. He was a lovely man.
Monday, April 20, 2020
Our deepest sympathies. On many occasions we enjoyed a wave and a smile from the truck as we walked through town. We are so very sorry for the loss this family is certainly feeling very deeply. Thinking of you and here for you all always.
With love, Julie, Fraser, Sienna and Sydney
Monday, April 20, 2020
My sincere condolences to the entire family.
May you find peace in fond memories
Monday, April 20, 2020
Our entire family is thinking of you at this time! Our sincerest sympathies !
Monday, April 20, 2020
Ray and Dianne, words cannot express our deep feelings of sorrow as we learned of your loss. It is difficult even to imagine the pain you must be going through and I hope that the support from friends and family will make this burden lighter for you. Let your memories take you back to all the good times.
Love, Heather and George
Monday, April 20, 2020
Lori, Ella, Will and family
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss of Darren. I will always remember him as the soft spoken, caring person and Dad that I first came to know at daycare when the two of you were little.
Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time and Always, Nancy Clarke
Monday, April 20, 2020
Lori & Family, Janice & Family
Our deepest sympathy to you all. We thinking of you and sending heartfelt hugs
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Shilvock Family, our deepest sympathy for your loss of Darren. A beautiful Obituary. Our thoughts and distant hugs are with you during this very difficult time.
Jennifer Thornton & Family
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Ray and Diane
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family
Harold &Shirley Mundle
Wednesday, April 22, 2020
Ray, Dianne and family,
We are so sorry to hear of Darren passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you both and your family during this difficult time.
Diane and Deb
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Our paths would often cross on our hikes on 7B. Darren, like his dad, would drive the roads of the valley, and stop his car to chat about how things were. We shared golden retreiver DNA, as Oliver and Alphia were our dogs and they came from the same golden pool of 4 leggeds. For us, Darren was kind and generous as a neighbour. I take comfort in knowing he died where he had lived and few of us can have this comfort of place and space. I wish I had known he was suffering so, as suffering is amongst us all, and we often hide it from each other. I am grateful my heart and eyes now know more of him.
To Lori, William and Ella, to the Shivlock family-Darren left us all with a clear understanding of his life, let us remember that life with sincere and true love. He surely touched my life-and I was a stranger amongst us.
Dr Michele Chaban ( Amik subdivisiion -a stones throw away).
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Sending my warm thoughts. I worked with Darren at The Town and will always remember his friendly manner. He was very kind. Thinking of you.
Brooke Schultz (Batty)
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
We are saddened to hear of Darren’s passing. We remember getting to know him at Nancy & Robert’s farm where he would be holiday in the summer. He was quiet with a beautiful smile. Our condolences , Diane & Ray, to all your family and extended family. It is such a difficult time for to have something like this happen as people cannot gather to give you support.
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
My thoughts, prayers and love to all.
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Ray and Dianne and family.
Sending you lots of support ,love and compassion.
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
To the Shilvock family our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
Heather Neil and Barry Hutchinson
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
We wish we had the right words to say. Just know we care.
Christopher & Ann Dunn
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
We are so sorry to hear of the loss of your dear son. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. What a wonderful tribute to him.
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Dianne & Ray,
So sorry to hear of your son’s passing. Our sincere sympathy to you.
Ken & Lynn
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
To: Lori ,Will, Ella and Family
We were saddened to hear of Darren’s passing. We will always remember Darren as a kind, soft spoken guy with a warm smile.
Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you in this difficult time and our family is always here for you, Will and Ella.
Kim
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Although we didn’t know Darren our heart is saddened to hear of his death. To his mom and dad who will be feeling so sad our deepest sympathy.
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Ray, Dianne, Janice, Tracy and families Lori, will and Ella
We are truly heartbroken and I’m at a loss for words. Please know we are thinking of you all as is mom and sending our love.
Jody and shawn Everitt and Lois Williams
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
My sincere condolences to all of the Shilvock Family – especially to Dianne & Ray and Ella & Will. A beautifully written tribute to Darren. RIP
Heather
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
My deepest sympathy to the Shilvock family. Thinking, and praying for all of you! Sending hugs
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
my thoughts are with you at this very sad time ray and diane
and family
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Sending my condolences on your loss, Ray, Diane and family.
Robert Ramage
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Deepest sympathy to all the family at this very sad time.
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Ray Dianne and family: Such a beautiful tribute to Darren who will be greatly missed by all of you. May you find comfort in the many happy memories you have of the wonderful son, brother,father, cousin and uncle that he was and dwell on the many happy times spent with Darren. Barb Bill Alanna Gostick
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Dear Lori, Ella, Will & family, I was saddened to hear of your loss. Though I never met Darren, I am touched by the lovely tribute written here for him. He certainly touched the lives of many in this community, many of whom remember him for his quiet demeanor and friendly smile. Take strength in knowing that there are many here who extend their thoughts and prayers to you, as do I.
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Ray, Dianne & family,
We are so sorry to hear of the tragic loss of your beloved son & brother. What a beautiful and eloquent tribute. We didn’t have the pleasure of meeting Darren but you all are family, seldom seen but loved and cared about as extended family.
May your precious memories and God’s Comfort sustain you in the days and weeks ahead.
With our love and prayers,
Karen(Smart) & David Crouse
Kamloops BC.
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Our hearts are broken for the loss of Darren. We will fondly remember our times at the lake with you all. We are here for you whenever you need us. Love always Brian , Crystal Betts and family
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Sending our deepest sympathy to Darren’ s family and friends. Remembering him with love. What a wonderful tribute to a wonderful person.
Duane Austin, Cindy, Angi and Fran.
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Ray and Dianne
My condolences go out to you in the loss of your son, and to his family.
Joan Weldrick
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Ray & Dianne & Family
Pat& I were in shock when we heard the news. It”s not supposed to be this way. Hang onto the memories and there will be lots. We will talk some time down the road in better times.
Pat & Ray
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
What a beautiful tribute to a much loved brother, father, son, husband, uncle. Our hearts go out to all of you
Curt, Kim, Meagan and Jesse Sewell
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Such a beautiful tribute to Darren who will be greatly missed by all of you.
My deepest condolences at this difficult time. We are thinking of you all.
Terry & Norma
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Our deepest sympathies to you, Ray , Diane , Janice , Tracey , Mike, and families at this time of loss. Darren will be truly missed by all. Wonderful tribute . You are all in our thoughts.
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Ray ,Dianne & family
There are no words that will ease the pain of your loss of Darren but my thoughts and prayers are with you
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
Bev. and Marion Genoe.
Ray and Dianne, Janice and Tracey. We are so saddened and brokenhearted to hear of your loss of Darren. It is very evident by the postings here and the wonderful obituary tribute that he was a very special person to all who knew him. Hold on to all the great memories you have, turn to your Family and friends for support at this difficult time and know that we all share your pain. We offer our sincere condolences and our thoughts and prayers are with you. May you be comforted.
Wednesday, April 22, 2020
My deepest sympathy to you all
Can’t imagine how your hearts are aching. May it ease the pain to know that others care
Treasure your many memories
Ruth Butler
Wednesday, April 22, 2020
To our dear, life-long friends Ray and Dianne and the whole Shilvock Family. Our hearts are broken for you with your loss. We will pray that you continue to support each other and strengthen each other as you face the days ahead. We know that Darren was so loved by all of you and that you will deeply miss him. Please accept our deepest sympathies and know that we are here for you, Jake and Anne Marie Hammer
Wednesday, April 22, 2020
Tracey, just received this sad news. Sorry for your loss…my deepest condolences to you and family
Wednesday, April 22, 2020
Ray, Diane and family;
Please know that you are all in our thoughts and prayers at this difficult time. Sending our love and deepest sympathies to all.
Wednesday, April 22, 2020
Lori, Ella, Will & Shilvock family: Saddened to hear of Darren’s passing. Lovely tribute to him in the obituary and the messages sent by family, friends and co-workers. I worked with Darren at the Town and he was a great person. Cherish the great memories you have and know we are thinking of you and your family at this difficult time.
Wednesday, April 22, 2020
To Ray and Dianne,
For any parent, the loss of a child under any circumstances is tragic. Our thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time.
Barry and Nancy Matthews
Wednesday, April 22, 2020
To Lori & Mr. and Mrs. Shilvock (and family),
I’m sending you my deepest condolences for your loss. Darren holds a special place in the childhood memories of my brother (Wes). Being the little sister, I too have fond memories of fishing, playing tag and building tree houses with the “boys”. Darren was always such a kind and gentle soul – a true blessing to my brother. The tribute to Darren is beautiful and honest. It speaks to the importance of continued conversations about mental health and gives raw insight into the tragic consequences this disease has for so many people and their families. Please know all of you are in my thoughts during this difficult time.
Wednesday, April 22, 2020
My deepest condolences to all of you at this time. May the memories you have of Darren be with you forever.
Linda Teed and family
Wednesday, April 22, 2020
Ray and Dianne our thoughts and Prayers are with you and your family
We were very glad to get to know Darren. He had such a pleasant way about him.
He and Wesley were very good buddies. They spent time at our place and your place and at
The farm. We were so glad Wes and Darren were friends and continued to be friends
as the years went by! Wes was so honoured to be best man at Darren and Lori’s
Beautiful wedding . It is a sad time. We told Wes to treasure his friendship memories and time spent with Darren . Ray and Dianne you will have so many memories . They are priceless! Our thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
Wednesday, April 22, 2020
Our deepest sympathies for the loss of your son Darren. May you find comfort and strength from the many memories you have shared over the years.
Our condolences also to your family and extended family.
Sincerely Thom and Linda Armstrong
Wednesday, April 22, 2020
Tracey and family,
One of the most well worded obituaries I believe I have ever read. Kudos to you for being able to articulate such a meaningful and wise perspective so well during this emotional time for your family.
My sincerest sympathies.
Teresa
Wednesday, April 22, 2020
Bill Marshall
April 22, 2020.
Deepest Sympathy Ray and Dianne. There is no greater loss then losing one of your children.Try to find peace. Bill Marshall.
Thursday, April 23, 2020
Condolences to all of Darren’s family and friends. He will be remembered for his smile and always quiet Hello. Thinking of you all.
Kelly, Shawn, Hayley and Meghan Miller.
Thursday, April 23, 2020
Dear Dianne and Ray,
We were saddened to hear of your loss. As a parent of similar aged children I am doubly touched by your loss. The tribute to Darren is most touching. We know his passing will be felt not only by you but the whole community. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
On behalf of not only Agi and myself but the whole Sunset Shores community please accept our heartfelt condolences.
Agnes and Peter Vincent
Thursday, April 23, 2020
Ray & Dianne & family,
Ella, Will, Lori & family,
Words will not wipe away your tears,
Hugs will not fully ease the pain,
Hold onto the cherished memories,
Because forever they will remain
Sorry for your loss. Thinking of you
and your family. HUGS
Thursday, April 23, 2020
Ray and Dianne So sorry to hear of your loss.Thoughts and prayers go out to you and your Family . Barry and Marg Gilray.
Thursday, April 23, 2020
To Ray, Dianne and family, Our condolences during this sad time for all of you.
Thursday, April 23, 2020
Ray & Dianne,
A heartfelt sympathy in your painful loss of your son Darren. May he rest in peace.
Thursday, April 23, 2020
So sorry for the loss of your dear son Darren. Such a kind soul and he will truly be missed. May your memories be your strength during these difficult times. Thinking of you all, Kurtis and Krista Royal
Friday, April 24, 2020
Our thoughts and prayers go out to you.
Friday, April 24, 2020
My deepest sympathies to Tracey and the Shilvock family. Thinking, and praying for you all at this time. Hold onto all the memories to help you through this difficult time.
Friday, April 24, 2020
Tracey and family. I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your brother. What a sad and difficult time for all of you. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. May your memories bring you comfort.
Friday, April 24, 2020
Our condolences to Ray&Dianne and family. We were very saddened to hear of the loss of your son Darren. WE always remember how shy he was when he was younger and very polite.
May he R.I.P
Friday, April 24, 2020
Ray and Diane
We are so very sorry to hear of the passing of your son. Our sincere condolences to you and your family at this very sad time.
Sheila and Andy
Saturday, April 25, 2020
To Diane and the Shilvock family, I send my deepest condolences to you and your family during this difficult time.
Monday, April 27, 2020
Lori and family,
We were heartbroken to learn of your loss. Although we didn’t know Darren well we were always happy to see him and say hello at the club. Our deepest condolences to you and your family during this difficult time.
Monday, April 27, 2020
Very sorry for your loss. Our heartfelt condolences to you and your families. Rod and Maxine Corea.
Monday, April 27, 2020
Oh Ray, Dianne and family. I am so very saddened by this news, I did not know until today and I have huge tears in my eyes. Darren was one of my favourite people to talk to, I just loved having visits with him albeit normally at TD when I worked there. I am broken hearted to see this. Please accept our deepest sympathy at this time. Rest In Peace Darren❤️❤️
Thursday, April 30, 2020
Ray, Dianne and family. Our thoughts are with you. Darren’s smile and wave will be missed during our walks. We sincerely trust, memories, time and the joy of his children will again brighten your days.
Peter and Ruthann Zinkan
Thursday, April 30, 2020
Our condolences to all of Darren’s family. We will always remember Darren’s kind and gentle manner. Our thoughts are with all of you during this difficult time.
Corey and Lesley Whitten
Wednesday, May 6, 2020
I am so terribly sorry to hear this. Lori, please know that I am thinking of you and your children as you struggle to grapple with how you are feeling right now.