Lacey, Martha 'Marty'

It is with deep sadness that we announce the passing of Marty Lacey at her home in Slabtown with her family by her side on Saturday, January 7, 2023 at the age of 87.

She was predeceased by her beloved husband Byron Lacey on March 6, 2021.

Marty was blessed with a beautiful daughter Linda, who was her pride and joy and who remained a shining light of love throughout Marty’s entire life. She was the much-loved Godmother of Jana Kridlova (late John) and special Grandmother to Emily and Alex.

Born in Toronto on April 26th, 1935, Marty was a daughter of the late Rosa (nee Totilo) and Frank Dattilo. She had a loving close relationship with her big Italian family which included six brothers Domenic, John, Joe, Norman, Edward and Bill and her sister Lee, sister-in-law Jinny, and will be remembered fondly by her many nieces, nephews and their families.

Marty’s nephew Dave was able to relocate and work from the area and tend to his aunt’s health needs. Dave provided her with care and companionship, it was clear that he loved her with all of his heart and would do anything to honour her wishes to remain at her cherished home in Slabtown.

Marty was a successful career woman who for many years worked as an assistant manager at Loblaws in downtown Toronto, which was a very impressive achievement for a woman in the 1960’s.  In the 1970’s, Marty and her husband Byron and daughter Linda relocated from Toronto to Bolton Ontario to live in their beautiful “house on the hill”. This home quickly became the heart of the Dattilo/Lacey family gatherings where years of joyful and memorable occasions took place, from birthdays and anniversaries and baby showers, to the simple pleasures of snowmobiling, tobogganing, swimming, playing cards and “Wahoo” and gathering together around the beautiful stone fireplace.

She successfully ran the Albion Bolton Community Center for almost 30 years and during this time Marty became the first woman in Ontario to be licensed to manage an arena and remained a well-respected and central figure in the community. In approximately 1999 Marty retired from the Bolton Community Center and she and Byron relocated once again to their home in Slabtown, Ontario where they instantly fell in love with the landscape and the community. It was here that Marty began the next exciting chapter of her life. Marty was so appreciative at how quickly she was welcomed into the warm, friendly and inclusive community of Beaver Valley.  For many years, Marty devoted tireless hours of volunteer service to the Marsh Street Center and to the Beaver Valley Outreach and the local Rotary Group.  In addition to her volunteer work, Marty always enjoyed the social activities in the community, including her art classes with friend and teacher Michelle Fleming and her life-long friendship with her dear friend Sandra Mulvihill.

She gave selflessly to the amazing people and community that has cared for her in so many ways over the years.

A celebration of both Marty and Byron’s life will take place at the Marsh Street Centre in Clarksburg on Sunday, January 22, 2023 from 12 until 3 p.m., with tributes being shared at 1 o’clock.

As your expression of sympathy, donations to the Beaver Valley Outreach (Cheques Only Please) would be appreciated and may be made through the Ferguson Funeral Home, 48 Boucher St. E., Meaford, ON   N4L 1B9 to whom arrangements have been entrusted.


A celebration of both Marty and Byron’s life will take place at the Marsh Street Centre in Clarksburg on Sunday, January 22, 2023 from 12 until 3 p.m., with tributes being shared at 1 o’clock.

Donations: Beaver Valley Outreach (Cheques Only Please)
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Memories & Messages of condolence

  1. Ann Bayly
    Tuesday, January 10, 2023

    Loved Marty. She was such a stalwart friend and there wasn’t anything she wouldn’t do for anyone. She will be missed by all my family as well. Especially Angelika who remembers
    a special bond they shared

  2. Jackie Stewart
    Wednesday, January 11, 2023

    Many memories of Marty, always giving to BVO, her property in Slabtown for Rotary dinners, and the old Beaver River Rat Race. Her sharing and presence always positive.
    Thanks to Linda Wykes for all the support she gave to Marty.

  3. Lila Lawcock
    Wednesday, January 11, 2023

    Marty worked tirelessly for BVO putting her amazing talents to use, she always seemed to be there working on the books, banking etc. but always managed to take some time off to enjoy the many happy get togethers we BVO volunteers enjoyed.
    You were sadly missed when you left us, and remembered with love by those if us that so much enjoyed volunteering with you.

  4. Sue Aldcorn
    Wednesday, January 11, 2023

    To me, Marty was the face of BVO. She made me feel so welcome when I began volunteering there. I didn’t have a lot of history with Marty, but I truly liked, respected, and admired her.

  5. Sylvia Ridgley
    Wednesday, January 11, 2023

    I was saddened to hear the news that Marty Lacey had passed. Years ago when Marty first settled in this area she approached a mutual friend of ours and asked her what there was in the vicinity in which she might be able to get involved usefully. Immediately she was introduced to BVO and, as they say, the rest is history. Marty was always friendly and cheerful to everyone and will be greatly missed.

  6. Alina Grelik
    Thursday, January 12, 2023

    My contact with Marty was through the BVO.
    Someone once said… when it comes down to it, one doesn’t remember a person for all the things they’ve done; but rather they are remembered for how they treated you. Marty was a lovely person. RIP.

  7. Gavin Leeb
    Saturday, January 14, 2023

    Marty was a community champion and we are all the better as a result. In addition to her extensive BVO work, Marty, Joan Ives-Coleman and Pam Leeb were the moving force behind the resurrection of the Marsh Street Centre. Marty’s passing truly marks the end of an era. While Marty has now left us, both she and her contributions will live on in the lives of so many who are the better because of her efforts.

  8. Mae lanktree
    Saturday, January 14, 2023

    So sad to hear the passing of my dear friend Marty may you Rest In Peace will be greatly missed but not forgotten

  9. Bonnie Cleverley (Finn)
    Saturday, January 14, 2023

    Linda, I am sorry for your loss. I worked closely with Marty for 8 years at BVO and learned so much from her. We had many laughs together too! Her obituary reminded me of the many conversations we shared and how much I learned about her wonderful life. My life was enriched by knowing her. Sending love to you and your family.

  10. Nancy McLauchlan
    Monday, January 16, 2023

    I’m so sad to hear about Marty! She was my second Mom growing up and my Mom was Linda’s second Mom! We were neighbours on Pape Ave but so much more! We were all family! I remember Marty and my Mom making ballet costumes for Linda my sister and myself! She was a funny strong lady! Way ahead of her time for the 60s I was from a family of 5 so any chance I got I would be at their house! Marty always welcomed you with open arms. I was so sad when they moved to Bolton because I knew I wouldn’t see them as much. We did have so much fun when we went up there. We lost touch for a while and then I found Marty through the internet and I was lucky Linda was here visiting from out west and we met up! Lots of tears and laughing. I’m so happy I got to see her one more time and we even talked a few times. You will be missed Marty! Rest In Peace ❤️

  11. Catherine Sholtz
    Friday, January 20, 2023

    My condolences to Marty’s family. I was saddened to hear of her passing. I so enjoyed working with Marty at Beaver Valley Oureach. She was my mentor and a great collegue. She worked endless hours at BVO as a volunteer. She will be greatly missed. I will miss her.

  12. james Healey
    Friday, January 20, 2023

    Linda: You mother enjoyed a long and accomplished life. She is now with Byron, and Freda, and many others from Bolton that enjoyed each others company.

    Marty, rest in peace.

    James Healey

  13. Angelo Sperduti
    Monday, January 23, 2023

    To the Lacey Family, I was a long time ice renter at the Albion Bolton Community Centre, and it was there that I met Marty. She was a fantastic lady. Very smart , and took no crap from anyone! I really enjoyed our chats and she was very proud of her Italian heritage. I was very sad when she retired and left Bolton. I must also say that not only was she a great Lady, she was a Pistol, not to be tangled with! My thoughts and prayers are with Marty and her family. Angelo Sperduti, Bolton

  14. Fred & Pat Kolb
    Friday, January 27, 2023

    Dear Linda and all of Marty’s relatives

    We are so sorry to hear of Marty’s passing, just read about it in the Caledon Enterprise. Out of the blue we called and were talking to her just before Christmas. She mentioned her nephew was living with her but we did not realize she was not well.
    I worked with Marty in the kitchen at the Albion Bolton Community Centre for many years and helped with many functions. Fred was on the Community Centre Board and also did a lot of corresponding with Marty. She was a true leader and kept that place buzzing all the time.
    When we lost our daughter 11 years ago and there was well over 500 people at the Mass and funeral I still remember Marty standing at the back of the church as we were going out. I have talked to her a few times since then but was truly thinking about her back in December.She was an awesome and great leader and will be truly missed.

    When someone you love becomes a memory
    That memory becomes a treasure.


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